Life goes on in a routine way and then suddenly, a big SHOCK….like losing a very close cousin who most of her almost 65 years was “full of life”…very active, in fact, the day before, playing and playing with her visiting Israeli grandchildren, running here and there, being the one to help and advise not only her 3 married children and grandchildren but also her husband who so recently was diagnosed with the dreaded “C”…one early morning, “here” still in bed saying good-by to her husband going out to early morning prayers, only a while later not being able to be awakened…As those of us far away got together to “mourn” and listen to a meaningful lesson in her memory, we realized that for her, it was a fast “good” death…for those left behind a terrible shock which is hard to come out of….
This causes viewing life through different “spectacles”…appreciating being with children/grandchildren even more; trying to get together not only with family but close friends whom we seem never to have time to see…Taking a better care of ourselves…it is a “coincidence” that while all of this has been happening, I who cannot swallow pills have been referred to a homeopath with a more “holistic” view in care…there “happened” to be a health seminar being offered which I have been participating in-it has given me a whole understanding on eating and living healthier!
Finally we can look at the positive characteristics of those who have “left” for a better place for them and try to incorporate these into ourselves….I am now trying to laugh, help, go with the flow, look at the positive, keep in touch with family and friends more…
As the Yiddish expression so aptly states, “man plans and G-d laughs”….we don’t know what’s in store, so I guess the best is to try to do is “more”…..
Wishing you all a Happy, Healthy Summer with much laughter,many reunions and meaningful life events…
Geriatric Consultant for Elderly Parents, Adult Children & Olim
Guidance about Living Options, & Community Resources
A Helping Hand with Debbie Dan
Israeli Cell: 052-391-9328
American Phone 347-448-4177