The week began with the rather sad but not totally unexpected news of the death of a wonderful 97 year old “cousin-in-law’s” mother who was relatively active and alert until close to the end of her amazing life. The funeral was to take place at the cemetery across the road from a long term care facility where one of our Betel seniors had been on a respirator for months; since the birth of a grandchild a month ago, I had not had time to visit as I was so busy helping children/grandchildren. This gave me the opportunity to visit her. I was warned that her body was beginning to shut down and I realized it could be my last time with her(which it was). Although she was not really conscious, I felt we never really know what the soul absorbs so I reminisced with her about her life and my particular connection and appreciation of her…
While at the funeral I got more sad news of a very sudden death of the youngest son of one of my former Betel seniors; she, in her ’80’s, lost a son of 49…the funeral was to be in a few hours in the same place. After meeting a friend for lunch, I went back for such a hard, emotional hour-this mother wishing she could trade places with the son…
Feelings of sadness had to be let go for a wedding celebration(“Sheva Brachot”} of an “older” couple; also that same day was the “Siddur Party”of a first grade granddaughter receiving her first prayer book…Happy, proud, excited feelings….
Yesterday morning after receiving the wonderful news of our youngest son’s first child, an adorable baby girl(born after a relatively fast, easy birth!)…I got the sad news of the death of the Betel senior….the timing was so close that I just imagined one soul going upwards while a new soul was coming down; I was very thankful to have gotten the news of our 13th grandchild(a”baker’s dozen”) first….
As I return from the funeral of this 80 year old, I realize more than ever how we must be so grateful for all of the “ups” in life, appreciate and make the effort to participate in all of life’s celebrations………
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